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Apr 24, 2018

Parenting: What Young Fathers Must Know?

By Ianpassion

The majority of today's problems are the result of fatherless children who have never experienced affection or praise from their fathers. Fathers are extremely important in our children's emotional development.

Many studies have found that children who are estranged from their fathers misbehave the most socially and academically, and are more likely to be depressed.

As a new father, I am constantly learning new things. I am reminding myself to be accountable. I've realized that the most important thing I can do is invest my energy, time, and resources in my children while they are still young. It will be their priceless possession one day, just as we will be their treasured possession.

Years have flown by. My children have started school. I'll eventually be unable to hold them in my arms. It's critical that I spend time with them while they're still young. When they are on their own, hanging out with them will be a daydream 

First, Children who spend a lot of time with their fathers are more likely to be open-minded, confident, and secure as adults.

Nature is one of the best places for us "fathers" to spend quality time with our children. Let us take our children to the beach, park, river, mountain, or waterfall. If at all possible, we should plan a camping trip for them. Our children should understand that nature reflects the love and creation of our Heavenly Father.

If we take our children into the woods, we can use the soil as a metaphor for how God created humans. The Holy Spirit, who is the consuming fire, can be compared to fire. The sky represents the depth of the Father's love for His children. Many things in nature can be used as images by fathers to teach their children about the existence of our Heavenly Father. Once our children understand how important nature is to our Heavenly Father, they will become environmentalists in their own right.

Second, Children who witness their father abusing their mother physically or verbally are more likely to develop resentment, a rebellious heart, and an aggressive attitude toward others.

Fathers should not act as bosses. We can't just sit and watch TV while our wife is doing housework. We should not delegate all of our house duties to our wives. According to Scripture, even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and He gave His life as a ransom for many (Mark 10:45).

Children who have witnessed serve-me-father believe their mother is inferior to their father. They have a tendency to influence others by looking down on them. They are egotistical and reliant on others for their position, recognition, and service. Children who have witnessed their father assisting their mother, on the other hand, are more likely to be kind, helpful, and generous to others.

Finally, I believe this is very important. Accepting our limitations is a good thing to do.

We are not superheroes as fathers. I know how much we love our family and how willing we are to give up everything for them. However, our human nature will eventually overwhelm us, we will lose control, and we will hurt our loved ones.

The famous Visayan proverb: 

“Ang carabao nga upat ang tiil mapandul man gani, unsa pa ka ha ta?”  
 “If buffalo with four legs stumble, how much more do we?

We are not perfect, and this is an unavoidable fact. So, whenever we fail, whenever we harm or injure our family, we must swallow our pride and apologize, "I am sorry."  It's only three words, but they're very powerful! We value our family above all else, which is why we value reconciliation over pride or winning an argument.

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